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No
person shall have premarital sex, or any
sexual relations outside of
marriage......... No person will attain the
address or phone number of any female under
the age of 21. For both legal and spiritual
reasons, no person will be in the exclusive
company of someone of the opposite sex under
the age of 21. No person will be in the
company of female(s) over 21 unless
accompanied by one or more other members of
the group for accountability. Wives and
family members are excepted. Other
exceptions may be granted by Mark Mohr, but
must be approved in advance.
We
will pray with each other before all shows.
Before and after each show are key times for
ministry. We will take advantage of these
times by being available to individually
minister to others."
Our
goal is not to separate ourselves from our
fans. However, we realize that hormones are
not to be taken lightly. It is easier to
avoid the entire opportunity then to get out
of a very uncomfortable situation. l am not
saying that our band members cant ever talk
or minister to someone of the opposite sex,
l just don't want anything to happen that we
might regret
It
is not that l dont trust my band members-1
trust them with my life. However, in this
day and age with the Clinton Scandals and
many secular artist living the "rock
and roll lifestyle," there is a greater
possibility for a girl to say that a band
member was intimate with her, had sex with
her, raped her or got her pregnant. These
false accusations could only come about if
the two were alone in a private setting with
no witnesses. This is what l am trying to
avoid. l want to remain above approach. In a
public setting with witnesses, my band
members are encouraged to minister to anyone
in need. If it is not a public setting they
need to take at least one other band member
with them for accountability purposes.
I am
not denying the viability of opposite-sex
ministries, I just feel that there is a
higher level of intimacy that occurs when
opposite sexes share a private setting and
discuss spiritual matters. Under
circumstances like these it is better for
one of our male band members to bring in my
wife and give an opportunity for same-sex
ministry to take place (which can often be
much more effective and personal).
Lastly,
you may wonder why "No person will
attain the address or phone number of any
female under the age of 21?" As it Is
stated in the missions statement, this was
set in place for both legal and spiritual
reasons. First of all, l don't want anyone
in our band to be pulling the heart-strings
of our concert attendees or taking them for
an emotional roller coaster ride (not that
they would). l also don't want to give any
of our fans a false hope of a relationship
with a band member. Furthermore, all of our
single band members are well over 21 and
don't want to get involved in a relationship
with someone that is significantly younger
than them.
But
most importantly is the physical development
of teens these days. l say this with
caution, but one cannot ignore the early
development of so many teenage girls lately.
An example of this was at one of our recent
shows; There was a very attractive and
significantly developed girl that was
hanging around our band after our
performance. She definitely caught the eyes
of the young single men in our band. She had
to be in college- right? Wrong, she just
turned 16 with the body of a 19 year old. r
guess a good question for our band members
to ask is "Would they be carded at a 21
and over event?" If so, use caution!
What if the girl lied about her age?
Christafari does not promote relationships
with minors and will avoid such a situation
at all costs. l know that our regulations
may seem harsh-
but
they are effective and giver our stance we
have never had a problem concerning this
matter. It is better safe then sorry
Ultimately,
! hope that you understand the spirit of our
commitment. Our goal is to effectively
minister the gospel of Jesus Christ to all
who have ears to hear using the highest
level of accountability possible to remain
above reproach
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